Thursday, June 29, 2006

Social Interactions ...

What is the goal of social interactions ? Is it to make oneself happy ? Or others happy ? Or just to kill some time ... Why do making oneself happy and others happy so rarely intersect ? Is it possible to have a productive time socially ? Not just use someone else as a sounding board for ones ideas, but like how a toothed wheel and a chain can achieve more together as a gear, than they can individually ....

What about when there are 3 people, 4 people? Is it possible that all of them be content in a common interaction ? Or will there always be a tension of sorts .. someone slightly imposing his/her will on the others ...

And is it possible that all of them benifit from the interaction ?

Babaji once said that you should be able to cultivate the ability to live in solitude .. but is there any advantage of being with society ? For the soul ....

And on a small tangent, why do people enjoy so much at the expense of other people ? Why is fun always when someone else is uncomfortable ? Or the contrary, how can making someone else uncomfortable be fun ? I tried it, it sucks. I feel miserable if I make someone uncomfortable. Doesnt work. Even for small things, doesnt work.

There is this delicate art of teasing each other, socially I mean, to a point that is acceptable to a limit and the limit can be pushed based on the circumstances. But I never got what the limit was, how to find it, set it or push. Even when I pretend I am enjoying it, I am not. When there is nothing to talk to each other about, we should be able to enjoy silence or find something constructive to talk about. With a very few people, there always is something interesting to talk about. Most of the time, we are just filling silence with sounds and trying to enjoy the noise.


Destiny's Plaything

4 comments:

Trupti said...

social interaction is a choice....its not a commitment.....some ppl do participate as there is no other go.....n some ppl enjoy it.....whether its a productive conversation...or just a casual hello....one may or may not get wat one wants in both....
the goal social interaction can be wat one wants it to be...happiness...constructive...
..beneficial...gossip....way to vent up emotions...etc
trying to get only happiness from social interaction is upto an individual...one can always change ones choice(choice of participating in an interaction)...
limit again is not of measure...
limit for anything is defined and understood by person himself/herself....its basically by trial n error...still...one can define it only for oneself....

Trupti said...
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Anagha Mudigonda said...

trying to get happiness ... real lasting happiness .. that's the thing .. that's the thing ..

Syam Prasad Mallampalli said...

According to Feud, the famous psychologist and his theories(and also according to me;)) social interaction is a necessity in a secondary level. One cannot live for long without it. It can be in any manner. Making it to be purposeful depends on each individual and collective factors. No generalisation can be done for that.